Are You Really Who You Want To Be?

When do you know the life you’re living right now is the life that you’ve always wanted?

Benny Lim
4 min readSep 29, 2021
Photo by lucas Favre on Unsplash

It’s been said that the choices you make today will shape your future in 5 years’ time. That whatever outcome from the choices you make, you will see come to fruition 5 years into the future.

Meaning to say, the life that you’re living right now is based on the choices that you’ve been making since 5 years ago.

Similarly, the person you are today is shaped by the personal choices you’ve been making over the last 5 years.

If that makes any sense to you, perhaps the question you can ask yourself now is, are you who you really want to be? The you that you are now, is it the same version that you envisioned yourself to be back then?

Personally, I’ve been asking myself this question over the last couple of weeks, months even.

And the answer that I keep finding is one that I’m not entirely satisfied with.

Hand to heart, where I am now in life is somewhat in between what I envisioned for myself 5 to 10 years ago. Back in my mid to late 20s, I saw myself settled down with a beautiful family. That is definitely something that I have (and am thankful for) right now.

I also saw myself making a career out of things that I love doing, being able to provide a comfortable life for myself and my family. This is something that has yet to materialize as most of you would probably know by now.

And I guess this is really the part of my life that I want to change the most at the moment.

Again, I have to keep stressing this because people keep thinking that I’m some ungrateful guy who isn’t counting his blessings because that’s not it. I am grateful for all that I have.

I’m grateful for my wife and kids.

I’m grateful for the job that I have as it puts food on the table and a roof over our heads.

I’m grateful for having what a lot of other people would love to have but don’t.

The thing is, right now, a bit of what I have is also not so great for my mental wellbeing and as much as I…



Benny Lim

Medium writer since 2019, writing my way to a better life, and helping you lead a better life, one article at a time.